The Inner Conflict of Mother's Day
For all you mothers out there, I am sure you would agree that there is nothing in this world more miraculous than the act of becoming a mother for the first time; whether it is by giving birth or holding your adopted child in your arms. It is one aspect of being a woman, which until it has been experienced first hand, is truly difficult to fully explain the fabulousness of the entire experience.
Mother’s Day is the opportunity to value your maternal strengths and learn to appreciate the intensity of a mother’s love. Once you are a mother yourself, being able to receive love from your own child while at the same time express it to your own mother is a balancing act which can difficult to do.
For many out there, Mother’s Day brings a flush of emotions, which are not all positive.
For many out there, Mother’s Day brings a flush of emotions, which are not all positive. And, for many it is a source of outright stress. What if your mother has passed away? What if you never knew her to begin with? What if your mother did not live up to what society views as a good mother? What if your mother never really supported or understood you? What if your mother was never able to fully give herself to her children or be completely reliable? What if your relationship with her is estranged or you never received unconditional love from her?
In our society, motherhood is still idealized. And most mothers (if not all) are incapable of remaining on that pedestal which society has placed them on. So how does one get through Mother’s Day in such a scenario?
Tips to Help Cope if Mother’s Day is Difficult:
So as Mother’s Day approaches over the next few weeks, decide ahead of time how you wish to spend the day. Plan ahead. And rely on your inner strengths as a woman and know that you really can get through anything.
And to all those who are celebrating, may this day bring you joy and pleasure from both your children and families.
Image: Child With I Love My Mom Message” by Stuart Miles courtesy of freedigitalphotos.net.
We often get bogged down in our busy schedules and one-on-one time with each of our children is unheard of. It’s sometimes just logistically impossible in a house where there are young children, two parents working, numerous extra curricular activities, etc.
But, over the last several weeks, I have had the opportunity to spend some one-on-one time with each of my three children. I did not plan ahead of time, but circumstances were such that the opportunities presented themselves. And, was I ever happy that they did. It had been awhile since I had been able to have this individualized time. And, it was fabulous. And, to be honest, I forgot how much I enjoy each of my children with their individual personalities, quirks and completely different senses of humor.
So aside from the fun aspect, what are the real benefits of one-on-one time with our children? Why should we go out of our way and make the time?
BENEFITS OF ONE-ON-ONE TIME:
For instance, if we discover that one child really likes to cook, or wants to learn to cook, then giving him/ her responsibilities around meal time preparation and clean up is a skill which can be nurtured far beyond our ‘day out’ together. Time alone sends our kids the message that they are important.
What we do with our kids is not as important as the quality of the time we spend with them. We must make sure it is relaxing and enjoyable. We can find a common interest with our children, which does not have to break the bank. The time alone with us will help our children learn to be confident with their place in the family. And, it most certainly will create lasting positive memories for all of us.
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