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Bullying On The Playground: Part 2

6/20/2012

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In my previous blog Bullying on the Playground – Part 1, I discussed how bullying has existed since the beginning of time, but the escalation of it in our schools is becoming a growing concern. In addition, I addressed the emotional risks that ongoing bullying can have both on the bully as well as on the victim.

This week’s blog addresses the eagerly anticipated questions…So now what?  And where do we go from here?

So how can parents help their children who are being bullied? And what can we as parents do to stop the cycle of violence?

You can help your children at any age by teaching them:
  1. To hold their anger, or to not react. If a bully sees that they are not getting to you emotionally, the likelihood is high that the bullying will stop. Sometimes holding your anger and expressing it through more appropriate outlets is more difficult than losing your temper. Children can learn to shake it off, exercise it off, or merely ignore it.
  2. To not get physical. As tempting as it may to react to a bully by ‘hurting him back’, children should be taught that physical violence is never acceptable, even in response to being hurt. Children need to learn that they can stand up for themselves by walking away and becoming more assertive with their words.
  3. To practice being more confident. It is very good practice for parents to teach and promote confidence in their children regardless of whether or not they are being bullied. Encourage and praise. Have them learn martial arts. Support them in pursuit of their hobbies. And when they are upset or being bullied, remind them that they are strong and that they will overcome. Children need to see that their parents have confidence in their abilities. Walking tall with their head up high, is body language which sends the message that they are not vulnerable.
  4. To talk about their feelings and fears. I am a big advocate of speaking your mind. If kids are not comfortable talking to their parents, encourage them to speak with the school social worker or guidance counselor, or another trusted adult. Bottling up strong emotions is very dangerous. Children need to learn how to express themselves in appropriate ways, and not to keep their emotions hidden with the potential of losing control later on.


Most people can tolerate one episode of teasing or name calling or being shunned for something they are wearing. But when it goes on and on, bullying can put a person in a constant state of fear and begin a downward spiral of low self esteem, insecurity and vulnerability to a whole range of mental health problems.

And while the realization is frightening that bullying can begin as early as the toddler years, we as parents can find solace in the fact that when it is identified early and parents can be proactive at recognizing the signs of victimization and perpetration, much can be done to stop that cycle of violence before it ever really begins.

For more information on how to help your children if they are bullying or being bullied, please feel free to contact me.

Image used is Bully Free Zone by Eddie~S, used according to Creative Commons’ attribution license.
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